Father who 'made' girlfriend jump out of window guilty of controlling and coercive behaviour

|News, Domestic abuse , Violent crime

A father who controlled, coerced and abused the mother of his child has been found guilty of the crimes.

Remmel Parker, 20, had pleaded not guilty to charges including assault and controlling and coercive behaviour. On 1 November, after a two-week trial at Woolwich Crown Court, the jury found him guilty of two counts of controlling and coercive behaviour, as well as two counts of assault occasioning actual bodily harm and breaching his non-molestation order.

Demi Fleming, Parker’s ‘on-off’ girlfriend of three years, was controlled by Parker over a prolonged period. On one occasion Parker assaulted Ms Fleming, suffocating her with a pillow he held over her face whilst punching her. When she broke free, he told her the only way she would escape was by jumping out of the window. Ms Fleming jumped from the second-floor window. Parker told her to lie about her injuries and it was only when he suffocated her again did she tell her aunt the truth, who then reported it to the police.

Ms Fleming was reluctant to report the abuse, following threats from Parker that extended to her family. When he told her to jump from the window, he said that it was because he only wanted to go to prison for a crime that was worth it.

Richard Partridge, from the CPS, said: “Ms Fleming suffered at the hands of Remmel Parker over a number of years.

“As the father of her child, she should have found in him someone she could trust and who supported her, not someone who regularly controlled, assaulted and manipulated her.

“For years, Ms Fleming was terrified to tell anyone about the abuse she endured. Parker’s endless threats to her and her family secured her silence for three years.

“This conviction will hopefully help Ms Fleming move on, safe in the knowledge that he will no longer pose a risk to her.”

Detective Constable Jay Gasson of the South East Safeguarding Unit said: “Parker is a dangerous and violent perpetrator of domestic abuse. He has shown a high level of violence towards the victim and sought to control her daily life.

“His controlling and violent behaviour led to the victim jumping from a second floor window to escape Parker who threatened her. He also assaulted her further after she returned from the hospital, which included suffocating and strangling her.

“I wholeheartedly commend the bravery of the victim in coming forward to police and her courage in giving evidence against Parker.

“I hope that this verdict sends a message to those who are violent and coercive in a domestic setting, that police take these matters seriously and will fully investigate allegations and place perpetrators before the courts. I encourage anyone who is a victim of physical or mental domestic abuse to contact officers without delay with the assurance that you will be listened to and supported.”

Notes to editors

  • Remmel Parker [DOB: 01/04/1999] is from Blackheath in the London Borough of Lewisham
  • Richard Partridge is a Senior Crown Prosecutor for CPS London South.

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